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Happy New Year Hope everyone has all they want and need in the coming year xoxo
 
 
 
 
 
 
Merry Christmas and a Happy new year to all



 
 
 
 
 
 
Mel and I got engaged last night! Was going to wait until Xmas eve but decided to do it last night instead ( which was the first night of chanukah) we are both really happy and will post pics of our rings in the near future.
 
 
 
 
 
 

When I was a teenager I attended a Chabad Lubavitch school.
A sect of Jews who focus on the positive aspects of Judaism, the Kabbalah and life in general. They perform out reach to Jews around the world in the form "Chabad houses" community centers sometimes no bigger than a room which do things like provide kosher meat,sabbath meals, charity campaigns and much much more.
The leader of the sect Or Rebbe was seen as a pope like figure who was able to communicate on a high spiritual level and many people used to line the streets of crown heights in Brooklyn to receive a blessing from him.
Now I admit that Chabad have often had outlandish ideas ( like the rebbe is the messiah  for instance) and I have had more than one clash with my former educators over the years. But anyone who has seen my friends list of facebook will also see that I consider alot of them my good friends. I find them immensely positive people I find them wonderfully warm people these are people who really enjoy religion and is rules something I always found restrictive I cannot count the amount of times I went to my friends family home and was fed and welcomed like family. I know for a fact that if I was to go to my friends’ home in Bondi right now I would be treated with respect and welcomed with much joy.

Now a chabad house was stormed in the terrorist attacks in Mumbai and its occupants killed, I am not sure on the exact amount at this stage but I know the Rabbi and His Wife are among the dead. I didn't know the rabbi and his wife but I know people who do (the community is pretty big everyone knows each other somehow) all over Face book I see the status " Baruch Dayan Emes" loosely translated as blessed are you the true judge" I remember being told that when someone dies this is said to show your faith and that God has a plan and a true judge of the world. Basically things are in God’s hands.
I find this so silly I remember at the time thinking “what a crock of shit" I have never been able to understand blind faith (I prayed for it many times over the years) anymore that I understand killing in god’s name.

What is true and right about murder of innocents, poverty, war, Global warming etc.?

I do  however find it really beautiful, after losing one of their own they don't turn to anger and hate they mourn, sigh and Tell God they know what has doing. They tell themselves and each other that they will be ok. I respect that, I respect Chabad if for nothing else but their enthusiasm for life. So today I will join them in their grief and hope that there is a higher being with a plan because all I can see is sadness.

 
 
 
 
 
 
Coming out for me like most other people was not fun. Although I probably had it easier than some, I had a few shitty experiences just because I wanted to live my life in truth and be my authentic self.

I remember telling my mum  and her first response was to ask me if i was joking and then to say that she felt unwell. I begged her not to tell my father for two years ( I wanted time to tell others and get my head together) she said she wouldn't but told him in less than 24hours as she "had alot to deal with" Now i know it must be hard to have one path in mind for your child and have them take another I also know it is apparently hard because you don't want the hardship for them that comes from being 'different"

I AM FUCKING DIFFERENT! I am different because of my appearence I am large I am loud I  am a brunette I am not what  the average Hollywood film  considers beautiful and there are times I know i'm far from sane. But one thing I don't consider different is my love.

I like women  no correction.. I LOVE WOMEN  ( Mel the most of course!). So big friggin deal. I am in a respectful committed relationship we have our issues just like anyone else we have our times when we laugh at song lyrics for no apparent reason. We still wash dishes , do laundry , pay taxes etc just like any other couple. So I don't think being a "Dyke", "Lesbian" , "Gay"  (pick your label) makes me different I think it is probably one of the few things that makes me normal actually. 

  I should also mention that over the last few years mum has also met my girlfriends and come to the imperial and fair day with me.
So why the rant? allow me to explain....

 When my mother was a child she experenced some sexual abuse which is just too awful. I know she has flashbacks, I know she has issues with men ans sees them as sexual predators I know she has a rough time. I try to be supportive I try to understand.

However i also know that she has been married for 34 years and has attended many many many weddings over the years.
Mel and I have lived under her roof  slept in the same bed and kissed in front of her.
So why the fuck is she having issues with my brothers upcoming marriage and even more with the concept of Mel and I getting Married? 

Well apparently knowing I am Gay  for the past 5 years is something that she is open about to people but isn't really ok with and marriage means sex and that is too awful ,and of course there is the whole marriage between a man and a woman only thing

So i asked what happens with Kens wedding and the reply is " Oh I am quite happy not to think about it" i asked why she had a problem with it? was it  who he was marrying? " I don't know' was her reply.  What about Mel and I?  we have been looking at rings " I am not sure how i would cope with that" was her reply. would she attend the wedding? would she want to know that we were engaged?  should i tell her? what can i do to make it easier for her? her reply was .. " I don't know why  and  I don't know what you can do "

So what the fuck do I do now?  when we do get enagaged not wear my ring? sneak around? have a wedding and invite everyone but her? I am sorry  and i know I am being really really selfish but what ever happened to dealing with your own issues  and SHUTTING THE FUCK UP!!  she has remained silent and vacant when my brother mentions his wedding why can't she at the very least do that for Mel and I?

You know Mel... the girl who drove her to and from the hospital every single day when dad was sick, the amazing woman who takes her to the supermarket on a Tuesday  so  she can shop and get home safely as she can't  drive due to epilepsy.

And I am sorry but what about me? I have put up with so much emotional , verbal and at times even physical abuse over the years  why can't I be happy? why can't you shut the fuck up and just be happy for us?  Your son would glady sell you for money I would give you the shirt of my back and have at times given you my last cent  and gone without so I know she and Dad are OK . Why now? why can't i finally have some respect?  why can't she just deal with her own issues and be happy for me? be happy that I have found my soul mate? I am just so sick of her issues becoming mine and am at a loss to understand. I know find myself sad and confused . But what scares me is that I may actually stop caring and I am not ready to lose my mother yet.
 
 
 
 
 
 
YAY OBAMA!! 

Boo prop 8 passing
 
 
 
 
 
 
Greetings all i sure you have been waiting on the edge of your seats wondering where i've been and what I'm up to.
Well here I am TA DA!!
Life has been busy and I haven't had a dull moment since I posted last.

1. Mel and i have moved to Auchenflower which is neaer the city and Mel's work. It is a cute little place and we have a deck which is super awesome.

2. I was up untill recently studying to be a forist , however having a weirdo old lady who was a homophobic racist as your head teacher kinda puts you off I shall perhaps go to another colledge next year to finish and up my qulifications.

3. I have a glam job NOT I am at the pizzahut call centre and I take incoming calls from all round australia from people with pizza orders the average age is about 15 but its a job  and  is pretty low on stress so I'm Ok. I will however need to find some more work now my Austudy will be drying up. I'm actually kinda excited will be good to do something constructive and have more cash.

4.My fathers heart surgery was a success and although he has had some slight complications lately he is soo much better now its done.

5.. I am completely obsessed with facebook( sad I know! ) and spend way more time on there than i should.

well thats about it its good to back on LJ 

That is all
 
 
 
 
 
 

Dear Mum and Dad,
I am very sorry and sad that dad has to have a double bypass and am in shock as you both are at this completely unexpected turn of events. However,  mum I don't feel your being stressed gives you an excuse to act  like a  psychotic cow at every opportunity. Nor do I feel it is appropriate to yell and scream in a hospital because someone disagrees with your somewhat self centered view on life.
Mel and I are doing the best we can to make life easier for you both but please take into account that we also work and sometimes we get tired too. 
Mum please also understand that illness is not a competition you don't always have to be sicker and pout like a two year old if  someone else is actually getting medical attention instead of you.
 Dad I can't begin to imagine what your feeling or going through but when family members come to visit can you pls try to actually say hello to them if they are in the room, and  please try not behave like a stupid knob  towards the nurses you are not funny, and they have a job to do.
I know you think I am selfish and unhelpful but maybe you need to realise your not the only people who are scared and sad at the moment. Nor are you the only people who are going through this. I am not a child and am a bit sick of being treated like one and considering I am often called upon to make decisions and help out when your in trouble a tiny bit of respect  for wouldn't go astray.

Also please keep in mind that you have children and siblings who also worry and care about dad  (maybe they  would have liked a phone call mum before you called your boss and acted like a drama queen) we are frantic about him coming through this alive and well too. 
I know I am not perfect  but I AM  trying and I DO love you both 
Suz.

 
 
 
 
 
 

Yesterday my cat shadow decided to go missing and I later found him down a storm water drain. it was raining at the time and he was wailing it was rather awful. I manged to lift the cover off the drain (don't ask me how I have no idea)and lift him out. He was given the all clear by the vet. The theory is he may have been clipped by a car and run down the drain. He is doing ok now and eating alot . That is all

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